Cheater, Cheater, where did you meet her?

Good morning.... I think. It's Sunday morning and raining like crazy. This crazy weather is going to be the death of us all. We go from 45 degrees as a high to 75 as our high the next day. No wonder we can't get rid of our coughs Mother nature can't decide to burn or freeze us to death.. Anyhow back to the story.

Ben was now home and everything seemed to right again. I had both of my children happy and healthy and our oldest Marks Step daughter Jenny was a big sister and growing like a weed. Life seemed as close to perfect as it got. Boy was I ever wrong. Who was I to expect a fairy tale life? Looking back now I can play it my head and I look just like the hopeless wife in every infidelity story who thought everything was peachy keen when in reality it was anything but.

One day at home while my husband was at work and I was doing my usual duties of laundry and diapers and boo boo kissing I received a text message on my cell phone. It was from a number I didn't know which was weird as at the time I was a stay at home mother with really no friends apart from a select few other mothers and my children who I had most conversations with.

The Text message asked me if I knew a woman and it gave her name. I replied with No thinking they had the wrong number. Then another message followed. " Well your husband knows her pretty well." Which I replied with OK, who is this? Then another message came " They know each other too well, but don't take my word be a detective find out for your self." The womans cell number followed.

I was mad right away although not at him. I was mad at the person sending the messages. I instantly thought he was innocent and it was just some malicious person trying to use lies and slander to break up a happy marriage because of their own misery. So I called him and asked him who this woman was..... He knew her they worked together but he said they were just friends. The occasional conversation at break and showing off pictures of their families to one another. I bought it for a bit.

Soon after I became curious so just to confirm to my self that I was right my husband was not a cheat I looked up his cell records online. The Woman's number showed along the lines of 5-10 times every day calls lasting sometimes 45 minutes. Stemming back to even when we were in the ICU with Ben. There would be calls after work where I would call and he would be on the phone with her... He would talk to me for a few minutes and call her right back talking to her all the way home...

That doesn't sound innocent to me. When he got home I confronted him with the information. He still claimed it was nothing romantic simply a friendship. So I asked him to tone it down. No phone calls if they were just buddies like he said they could stick with conversations at work and I asked the same from her as she was also married. He agreed and I let it go.


A few months later I learned they were still at it. But this time she was using her house number because it was unlisted. However what they seem to forget is I am quiet resourceful and I found the listing it was her husbands name and their address. So once again I asked him to stop. The calls seemed to cease after that with the occasional call from her that lasted about 30 seconds so I am guessing he told her he couldn't talk.

Later on my husband changed jobs. He was laid off and had to find a new job which ended up being a third shift job, which is hard when you have children at home during the day and at this point I was working. I was working two jobs actually. I worked from 7 am in the morning at one job until it was time to go to the other which I worked at until 11pm at night. I was exhausted when I finally got home but we needed the money as he had been laid off for some time.

Soon after he started his new job I left my second job it was just too much when I had no babysitter so I would have to be there during the day to keep the children. I kept my second shift job so we wouldn't overlap in work times. So after a few weeks he seemed to be very tired when he got up for work a lot of days and I heard rumors he had been telling his mom whom he worked with that it was because the kids and I wouldn't let him get any sleep during the day.

I found this odd as we kept to our family room during they day and a lot of times we ran errands while he was asleep. So once again I got suspicious and I looked at the cell records...clean. But then I thought about something. We have a phone line in our bedroom for our Internet, it stays hooked to a computer so we don't use it for calls but our phone was hooked to it when afternoon when I got home.

I had not thought anything of it at that point but now I was curious so I hit redial.. Low and behold guess who's number showed up? Yep it was hers. Now I know what you are thinking I never proved anything and they could have just been friends. But honestly what man calls a friend that many times a day? Yep exactly. And that's not the end of it. Between the first and last time I caught him talking with her something else happened with someone else.

One night we got a sitter and went to my best friends house. This girl has been my best friend since we were in the 3rd grade so I jumped at the chance to spend some time with her as we both had kids and little time to get together. So my husband and I and few other friends got together with her at her house and we were drinking listening to music having a good time. Mark had been laying down in the back as he had a headache and wasn't feeling too well. He hadn't had anything to drink so we let him be.

The night we on we had a great time like we used to and soon after way too many drinks I went to get in the bed with my husband. We have a rule not to drive when drunk.. It's just too risky when we have those little ones at home that need us to come back safe and in one piece. Soon after I laid down and Mark and I made love he got up. While I thought he went to smoke it turned out once again I was wrong.

Soon after he got up I did too I was cold and I was going to see if I could find a blanket. When I walked out of the bedroom I heard laughing and there sat my best friend and my husband on the couch. She was sitting on top of him and they were kissing. Take in mind I was drunk at the time so it didn't process all I said was I need a blanket and she brought me one and I went back to sleep. They thought I hadn't seen anything but I had and I would remember it the next morning.

When I woke up no one else was awake and something inside me rang out saying something is wrong. So I looked at her phone which was on the couch charging. I looked at her text messages sent last night and in one she tells someone else they had kissed. And it all came flooding back to me what I had saw. I was furious. Needless to say me and my friend rarely speak now.

I got over it somewhat but my heart was shattered and my feelings towards my husband changed. I had lost both of my best friends and I felt like dying. Even though we were still together and she still called about once a week. The connections were gone. I don't feel like I used to. I still don't and I don't know if I ever will.

Well I guess It's time to call it quits today but tomorrow we will pick up where we left off.... Feeling a bit down now after rehashing all of those memories but tis life.